Paola
Bailey
Psy.D.

I recently came across an interesting video of a forensic artist drawing two images of the same woman, one based on how she speaks about herself, and the other depicting that same woman as described by others, complete strangers.  Would you be shocked to learn that the women described themselves in much harsher and negative ways than others saw them?

I was recently interviewed by Women's Fitness magazine on the topic of competitiveness in women and am happy to share the article here.  In it we discuss the possible roots of this dynamic as well as how to best use these competitive streaks in a healthy and productive manner so you can best reach your goals and keep your relationships strong. 

Read the full article here: Pretty Nasty

As the end of another year approaches, many of us are thinking about our hopes wishes for the year to come.  For many, New Years has been associated with the tradition of making resolutions for the approaching year, focusing on aspects of ourselves and our lives which we wish to change and improve upon.  Studies estimate that about 50% of Americans make New Year’s resolutions.  However, most of us are not very good at keeping them; in fact, studies suggest that only 10% of those who make resolutions make these behaviors lasting changes in their lives.  Below, I offer a few guidelines to improve your odds of making these changes stick. 

The holidays are packed with expectations.  Expectations of where you will be, who you will be with, and how wonderfully joyous it will all be.  There are also expectations of parties and family gatherings and coming together with the important people in your life.  However, not everyone has this picture perfect version of the holidays.  If you are among the hundreds of people who will be spending the holidays alone this year, whether this is due to separation from friends and family, the loss of a loved one, or financial hardship that prevents you from traveling, this blog post is for you.  It is here to remind you that the joy of the holidays can take various forms and that you can decide to use this time alone as a rare opportunity to center and nurture yourself, and perhaps even develop some new meaningful connections in your life. 

In a recent conversation with a young college student, the topic of sexual assault on college campuses came up.  I was astonished to learn that some progressive colleges in our area continue to treat sexual assault as a minor offense, one deserving of little more attention and punishment than a minor academic offense.  

Now that we've discussed a few of the most common reasons for poor concentration, let’s look at some concrete changes you can make to improve your ability to stay sharp and focused. 

I often hear my clients complain of difficulty concentrating.  Be it on the job, on their creative tasks, or even in their daily routines, I frequently hear them talk about difficulty keeping track of their ever-growing list of to-do’s and their frantic efforts to keep themselves organized and on top of their various roles and demands. I hear them tell me about the lists they make and the apps they use, and then I sense the frustration in their voices when they admit that even with these gadgets, they still feel overrun by unaccomplished tasks and half-finished projects. I hear them say that despite their best efforts, their minds sometime feel as though they are on a “scan” setting, constantly jumping from one station to the next, without staying at one of them long enough to get anything done. 

So, what do I suggest?  Well, first of all, a bit education.  Let’s start with a piece of information that many may find surprising: the mind’s normal condition is disorder.  Our brains are designed to notice, recognize, and attend to a variety of random sensations, perceptions, and thoughts, all of which are competing for attention, all at the same time.  Our brains do this to keep us in touch with internal as well as external needs, and ultimately to keep us alive.  As our brains develop, we become better able to manage this chaos and turn it into reasonable order by exerting “attentional control."  In simple terms, this refers to the ability to filter out irrelevant, or less important things, so that we can focus on others.  In other words, the ability to concentrate. 

I was recently interviewed by NationBuilder about my use of this web tool to create, run, and manage my practice.  Out of the box thinking has allowed me to use innovative technology to re-create a more efficient and effective practice marketing and managment system and now these ideas are being shared with other mental health professionals.  The take-home message: one needs to be creative, innovative, and bold in making decisions that will bring our services to the people who need them. 

Mental health professionals and researchers have been saying it all along; a healthier mind leads to a healthier body and vice versa.  Yet many of us fail to grasp the magnitude of this concept, or at best underestimate it to amount to a simple headache or shoulder strain after a difficult day at work.  However, mental health and resiliency have been proven to not just affect the way your body feels on a daily basis, but also how your body fights against viruses, responds to injury, recovers from injury, and even how long you live.

There has been a flurry of activity and discussion in the mental health community as two recently published studies shed new light on the possible connection between PTSD and women who have difficulty becoming pregnant and undergo fertility treatments, as well as those who succesffuly become preganant and go through childbirth.